Monthly Archives: May 2011

The Gift of a Lifetime


I had two great aunts who we loved and who loved us and showered us with love and affection, cookies and a love of flowers . . . and more.  In all our years we only saw them about a … Continue reading

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To Grok


If you’ve ever read “A Stranger In A Strange Land” by  Robert A. Heinlein, then you know what the term “to grok” means.  Otherwise you’re missing out. As our good friend, Wikkipedia.com says as “The Oxford English Dictionary defines grok … Continue reading

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Pity vs. Compassion


We don’t want your pity.  None of us survivors do.  We want compassion – and that’s a different thing over all. Pity implies some weakness; pity implies some wall.  Pity shows you have compassion – but you don’t understand at … Continue reading

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Defining ANXIETY: What IS It?


Anxiety. What is it?  We’ve all heard the phrase “anxiety attack”.  But what IS an anxiety attack – aside from all those emotions and feelings stirring around and surging up and building up inside of you stirring up and making … Continue reading

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Men Aren’t Supposed To Have Emotional Needs


“Men aren’t supposed to have emotional needs.”  I see that every day – from my wife’s own behaviors to the behavior of societies in general. Men aren’t supposed to feel – or if they feel, it’s only what society lets … Continue reading

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“The Boy” – Religious Symbolisms Continued


As we continue to go through “our proof”* – meaning the ‘Proof’ copy of our book prior to us authorizing release of this thing – we have found more and more religious symbolisms – meanings within words; and meanings within … Continue reading

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Harlow’s Monkeys


Harlow’s Monkeys (Tokoni 05/27/2009) A comment received caused me to pause and reflect on the psychological behaviors indicated in my story “Marrying the Girl Next Door”. The comment put me into a ‘thinking mode’ because I realize my answer was … Continue reading

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Need vs. Want: Know Them


Knowing what you NEED versus what you WANT is a great start towards internal happiness. You NEED transportation, but you WANT a new car.  (take a bus instead, or a friend.) You NEED to eat, but you might WANT a … Continue reading

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Asking Questions


On the very short blog posting “In Asking Questions You Begin to Answer Them” (or something like that; we’ll try to remember to ‘link’ this to that one.  Or it should be one blog posting ‘back’ (which is funny; that … Continue reading

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To Ask A Question Is the Beginning of the Answer


Need I say more?  LOL’ing! ’nuff said!

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