Monthly Archives: January 2012

The Shame/Blame Game


“I just want to hear that it wasn’t my fault and that it wasn’t my responsibility to make it stop.”  A male survivor posted that on Male Survivors from Sexual Abuse (a Facebook support page – and it just got … Continue reading

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The Truth In Advertising


I am a big fan of the English language. As a result I pay a lot of attention to what advertisers say – and even more important, how they say it.  I am a wonderful spin doctor – but I’d … Continue reading

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Misconceptions


So I go to my dentist today and they get to talking how they didn’t realize my dad was one of their patients. “He’s my buddy!” she brightly exclaimed. “Good for you,” I said, trying to keep the cynicism out … Continue reading

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When the Music Died – Song of the Angels


When the Music Died – Song of the Angels When I was a child I used to love to sing. I would sing to myself all the time. Sitting in the corner, playing with my toys – I would chirp … Continue reading

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Life, Physics, And God


In the universe everything is pretty much predictable, following the laws of mathematics, physics, and science.  Particle ‘A’ bumps particle ‘B’ giving rise to velocity and vector changes in both, or in some cases, such as a collider collision, giving … Continue reading

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Shaking the Shame of Being A Molested Child


Shaking the shame of having been a molested child is one of the hardest things do sometimes. To put things more succinctly: “Shaking the shame of having been a sexually used BOY is one of the hardest things to do.” … Continue reading

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Healing Differences in Child Abuse Survivors


Why Do Some Child Abuse Survivors Fare Better than Others? (Faith over on Blooming Lotus asked this great question, and while commenting I realized my comment was too long.  So I’m posting it here.) The best I can think is simple. … Continue reading

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The Yin to My Yang


She is my wife; I am her husband. She’s the yin to my yang, an anchor on a drifting boat sometimes, a rock to a lonely albatross a drink to a wino, luck to a leprechaun who has lost his … Continue reading

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Random: 01112012:1719


The morning after we posted “Dig & Chew: A Lesson Learned“, Dig and Chew, my two dogs, almost killed a cat.  I say “almost”  because I had to (with great distaste) finish the job. I went outside as is my morning … Continue reading

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DID Detectives: Tricks of the Mind


It was while we were in Puerto Rico this last summer that we became aware that there was ‘someone’ playing mind tricks on us – and it wasn’t just from ‘outside’.  It was an insider one as well.  And we … Continue reading

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