Embrace Yourself: The Hardest Thing You’ll Ever Do.

The title of this article is true: this is for everyone out there; really; John Q. Public included.

Learn to embrace yourself, and all that you are.  You’ll be much happier for it.

One of the things I’ve learned is that old adage “Love (or learn to love) yourself” doesn’t work.  You can’t love yourself when you despise (and are so deeply shamed, perhaps) of things you’ve done, or have been done to you.  The reason it doesn’t work is because until you really learn to forgive yourself (and “the others”, if you have them: you are some of the most very special people to me in the world for too many reasons to list here – you and your own selves.)

I’m not saying I can heal you.  I’m no miracle maker.  This kind of stuff has to come from yourself, inside yourself, heart, mind, and soul.  I know!  Been there, done . . . well, everything that goes with suicidal depression (yes, you CAN get so depressed that even killing yourself isn’t worth the bother) – and have the scars to prove it.

But you know, it doesn’t always have to be like that.  You can learn to hug yourself, forgive (and in doing so, you will learn to look at others with these new eyes) – if you learn to treat yourself as human – somewhat flawed, not perfect, able to withstand those blows you’ve received (either physical, mental, or financial) – and move on – not by letting go of them – “they” (your issues) will never LET go – if you’re hanging onto them.  And due to memory’s threads, you will hang onto them; therefore you must face the fact that if you are to live and survive -and as the shrinks say, “go on to thrive” – you must face these issues of human understanding, tolerance, and love – for one’s self.

I wish it was as easy as saying, typing, or reading it.  But I know from personal experience: it is NOT.  It is very difficult and hard. But you’ve got to take the first step – and if you’ve read this far, then you are interested in healing – so take that first step.  If nothing else, close your eyes and mentally give yourself a warm and loving hug.  I know: its hard to do the first few times.  But as time goes by it not only gets easier – it gets a lot better.  I should know.  I’ve (we’ve, many, many ‘others’) have been learning, and let me tell you something:

When you get it down, it’s beautiful.

Trust me: You will find your soul singing.

Yours in truth and respect, and if you can’t hug yourself, well then, here’s one: ((((( SPECIAL YOU!!! ))))  – from me and my “others” – to get you started.

Good luck, blessings, and may the peace of the gods forever be with you, whether you believe in them or not.  (Trust me: I don’t think they really care.)

Sincerely,
JW and ‘friends*’

(*you don’t know how long or hard we’ve worked here lately, but now I – and we are “friends”!)

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About jeffssong

JW is an adult childhood abuse survivor with DID*. He grew up in a violent family devoid of love and affection. He is a military brat and veteran. He no longer struggles with that past. In 1976 JW began writing "The Boy". It took 34 years to complete. It is currently on Kindle (http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004T3IVKK ), or if you prefer hard copy, on Amazon ( http://www.amazon.com/Boy-J-W/dp/1461022681). JW resides somewhere in the deep South. He is disabled and living with family. Note: Please feel free to take what you need; all is free to all. With that in mind, keep it that way to others. Thank you. We have 3 Blogs - One for our younger days, 0-10 (The Little Shop of Horrors); one for our Teen Alter and his 'friends' (also alters) with a lot of poetry; and finally "my" own, the Song of Life (current events and things)
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