The Sum of All Fears (and Why Control Freaks – Freak)

This one is easy, so we’ll be quick.

Fear stems from the unknown.

Unknown things can be dangerous.

Ug: “Hey, look, a cave!”
Lee: “Kewl. Lets go check it out.” (sound of distant thund-dar!  Dinosaurs romping about, or perhaps passing gas.)
Ug: “O’tay!” (topknot on head standing out)
They go in.
“RRRRAAAAWWWRRRR!”
Ug & Lee are seen no more.

Tribe: “Lesson learned.  Don’t stick your nose in a cave you haven’t explored.” (we shall ignore the conundrum.)

So there you have it: Unknown=(potentially) DANGEROUS!  And our animal monkey minds still run around gibbering anxiously when presented with this unknown (and potentially dangerous) – “threat”.

Soo… tribal leaders sit down, scratching body parts and picking fleas, staring in the fire muttering.

Chief: “We gotta do something.  We know no caves.  Scared to stick ‘um mug in um.  Ug Lee got . . (gulp!) eaten.  Something must be done.  We must control this killin’ cat.”
So they weaved them some ropes, made a net, and caught that cat and made kitty stew, pickin’ fur outta their teeth with its whiskers.

And thus begins the desire to control.  Control the threat to both individual and group survival.  A GOOD thing; otherwise we all would have been cat-scat.

And this trait still survives: Unknown = potential Danger to survival.  Danger=FEARControl the threat, and you control your fear.  You survive.

Unfortunately, now we are in the age of Jetson: Modern Man.

AND – we still have Ug/Lee doing the thinkin’, back in the part of  your brain that is responsible for ensuring your survival and doing things ‘safely’.

Ug: “Why’s that guy talking to himself.?” (Identification of unknown)
Lee: “I don’t know!” (Fear of unknown: will this guy eat me?)
Ug: “I don’ know.  Why don’t we call tribe security forces – .” (whips out trusty cellular bag of sand and metal filings) – “Just in case.” (Control potential threat.)
And then they arrest Jesus and lock him in jail.  Padded cell for this guy!

Good bye, Jesus; hello . . . well, whatever.  Control.  He/she won’t be around to bother us (make us scared!) any longer.

Figure it out.  It’s easy.  And remember:

Unknown ‘things’ inspire fear in the general population.
The fear is based upon survival instinct.
Control is a way to get a grip, eliminate the threat, and survive.

So when you meet a control freak who is attempting to control you; remember this one: he or she is just trying to ‘use’ you – because they are scared to death by their own perceptions (seeing their own survival, and nothing else, not even you).  Yeah; you got it:

They are just plain damn scared.  So don’t let them control you; find out what they are scared about – and calm them.

And then you will be the one controlling – not them.  And not from fear – but love and compassion.  Sometimes.

Nuff’ said, said Snuffy Smith.

End of line ….. (bwweeeeeeeeeeeeee!)

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About jeffssong

JW is an adult childhood abuse survivor with DID*. He grew up in a violent family devoid of love and affection. He is a military brat and veteran. He no longer struggles with that past. In 1976 JW began writing "The Boy". It took 34 years to complete. It is currently on Kindle (http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004T3IVKK ), or if you prefer hard copy, on Amazon ( http://www.amazon.com/Boy-J-W/dp/1461022681). JW resides somewhere in the deep South. He is disabled and living with family. Note: Please feel free to take what you need; all is free to all. With that in mind, keep it that way to others. Thank you. We have 3 Blogs - One for our younger days, 0-10 (The Little Shop of Horrors); one for our Teen Alter and his 'friends' (also alters) with a lot of poetry; and finally "my" own, the Song of Life (current events and things)
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