Apathy is A Wonderful Thing: Anger Management Tool

I won’t go into the whys, hows and wherefores; but this boils down to this:

You can’t be happy if you’re mad.

And if you are upset – that means you care.

So the easiest thing to do when you are upset is to simply . . . not! . . . care!

Easier said than done, like most things in life.  But as we discovered years ago: most things don’t matter, not in the long run.  Not when you begin looking past what angers or enrages you and ask yourself the question: “What will this matter in a day?  Or a week?  Or a month?  Or at the end of my lifetime?”

The answer is usually: nothing.  Whatever it is – that driver cutting you off, that kid getting into the shaving cream, that wife nagging about the yard – it all doesn’t matter in the long run.  The only thing that matters is being happy.

And like we said: you can’t be happy if you’re mad.

So care a little less about those pesky irritations in life.  It won’t kill you to wait a moment in that long slow moving line; it won’t hurt to let that other driver in.  As a matter of fact – once you get the hang of it – you’ll find it might even make you feel better about yourself.

Give it a shot the next time you feel that flash of irritation.  Step back for a moment, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

“Does this really matter?  Is this WORTH me getting myself all worked up about?”

Chances are it’s not.  and chances are you’ll be the one happier for it.  Because, like I said: Apathy can be a wonderful thing – especially when it comes to dealing with anger issues.

Good luck, take care, and peace.

JW & Friends


About jeffssong

JW is an adult childhood abuse survivor with DID*. He grew up in a violent family devoid of love and affection. He is a military brat and veteran. He no longer struggles with that past. In 1976 JW began writing "The Boy". It took 34 years to complete. It is currently on Kindle (http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004T3IVKK ), or if you prefer hard copy, on Amazon ( http://www.amazon.com/Boy-J-W/dp/1461022681). JW resides somewhere in the deep South. He is disabled and living with family. Note: Please feel free to take what you need; all is free to all. With that in mind, keep it that way to others. Thank you. We have 3 Blogs - One for our younger days, 0-10 (The Little Shop of Horrors); one for our Teen Alter and his 'friends' (also alters) with a lot of poetry; and finally "my" own, the Song of Life (current events and things)
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2 Responses to Apathy is A Wonderful Thing: Anger Management Tool

  1. Nice post, I’ve always suffered with anger issues.


    • jeffssong says:

      Always try to help. Just keep on remembering: you can’t be happy if you’re mad. And then do something about it – change that perception that triggered the anger. Good luck, and peace.


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