It’s easy to get mad. It’s easy to make someone else angry. Too easy – and that’s part of the problem. People keep taking the easy way out. That’s why so many people are angry and miserable. They keep pissing themselves off through their own personal perceptions of events, and then they ‘get revenge’ by pissing off someone else. And so the circle goes ’round and ’round until like a bunch of gang hoods, everyone is gunning each other down. No wonder so many folks feel like a bag of poo.
So . . . I challenge you: go out of your way to make someone feel better in some way – whether you do as I did over the past 3 days – complimenting some poor worker by saying, “My! You look beautiful today!” – to helping some poor joe move a box – or approaching an elderly couple, look at what they’re looking at, and engaging them in conversation – not about yourself, but about THEM and their interests.
Yeah, it ain’t easy. Didn’t your momma ever tell you: good things come hard? You gotta work for the things that make life beautiful; they aren’t gonna come falling from the sky and bip you in the head. Or are you too lazy and like wallowing in misery. If so, then so be it – and you don’t have any right to take your misery out on the rest of us. After all: it’s your battle to fight, not mine or someone else’s.
Like I said: it’s easy to get pissed off, and piss off someone else. We’ve all been doing it for . . . ever? And look at you – ticked off, angry, road raging down the road of life. Don’t you think it’s time to for you to change? After all: you can’t be happy if you’re mad. Here’s a TOOL to help.
So I challenge you: greet and meet, smoke and joke, give someone a compliment. Let some butt-head in traffic with a wave and a smile (it won’t cost you but a second – if that). Take that deep breath, and before you go with that initial impulse, ask yourself: is this going to really make me smile? Is this the kind of world I want to live in? Or . . . can I make it just a little better – by making someone smile.
After all, we found years ago: the best help you can give yourself is when you’re helping someone else. Helping others helps us all – including you. Trust me. As a survivor of abuse, I know.
JW and Friends