Knowing what you NEED versus what you WANT is a great start towards internal happiness.
You NEED transportation, but you WANT a new car. (take a bus instead, or a friend.)
You NEED to eat, but you might WANT a big fat steak. (any food will do, though.)
You NEED love, but you WANT friends (trust me: love hurts. Especially when its with friends. But once you start ‘loving yourself’ – you’ll find you NEED in here being met.)
You NEED social interaction, but you WANT family or friends (again: ever think about doing some volunteer activities? That helps fill the NEED if you can’t get what you WANT.)
You NEED to be accepted, but you WANT (think) fancy clothes, a brand new car, and a fine white house will get you that. (It won’t. Look at Charlie Sheen.) You NEED to accept yourself first – then a whole lot of this issue will just go away.
You NEED to care about YOURSELF first; you WANT others to care about you, though. (See that Social Acceptance thing again?)
You WANT to get somewhere quick . . . but which is more important? Sometimes you NEED to ask yourself if you NEED to get there at all!
And if you NEED to get there – does the timing really matter? What matters is that you try!
You NEED to TRY; you WANT to succeed. (But at what? Is it truly something you need?)
You WANT to control, feeling this as a NEED. But is there really any NEED for that one at all (asking yourself.).
You DON’T WANT others controlling you – but is that something you NEED? (self-control).
You NEED to have some boundaries; you NEED to define what they are.
But do you WANT so many boundaries that you are shutting everyone out? I don’t think that’s something you NEED. I think it’s something you WANT somewhere – hiding yourself and protecting yourself and trying to control all that’s going on.
Needs and Wants. We all got ’em. It’s a matter of defining them, and seeing what they really are – then acting accordingly; adjusting yourself accordingly, and becoming a better ‘adjusted’ person over all. After all, that’s something we all NEED to do though we might not WANT to do it sometimes.
We all WANT more . . . but we NEED to count our own blessings! (Did you “lift yourself by your own bootstraps”, starting out with literally ‘zilch’? WE did – and WE congratulate YOU on surviving this . . . and learning to ‘move on’.)
We WANT to be Happy. But we NEED to survive, first. And sometimes that means surviving our own selves.
Now For the “Big THREE” (in order*):
You NEED to survive. You WANT to thrive (for instance).
You NEED to survive. You WANT to Self-Actualize (according to Maslow’s Hierachy of Needs)
We NEED to have some sort of faith or religion (To be happy); we WANT Transcendence.
*Realize: Not everything applies to everybody or all at the same time. Some things must be done first; then others may follow. Not all “rules” are rules; some are merely suggestions. That’s for YOU to decided – what is important to you (NEED) and what is NOT (WANT).
It’s something we all “NEED” to do sometimes, LOL’ing! And it’s something we WANT people doing. All around the world. (Might help on ‘conservation of resources’ if people would stop confusing their ‘needs’ versus their ‘wants’ sometimes …. pollution and all that (I ‘need’ to get rid of this thing, I ‘want’ to throw it from the car ….)
(good luck with that. It takes a long time. But see that ‘need’ thing again. It might just be something you find yourself ‘needing to do’ sometimes).
Good luck, salutation, and we NEED (no, want) to get other things done.
Hoped this helped you.
Jeff, Friends, et all.
PS: Feel free to post what YOU perceive and see as YOUR own “Needs And Wants” – and see if YOU can figure them out below (Needs VS. Wants and things. We did (above) and do! – all the time!)
Your needs and wants? Just post them below. Perhaps someone will see them . . . and help you realize . . . whatever! – towards your own personal sense of happiness inside.