Male Support

So, even knowing it was a little hopeless, I decided to search for either a therapist or a support group for ourselves; being the man that I am, I know the going can be quite difficult.

And here’s what I found via Google and the internet.  Now bear in mind I live NEAR a city of 195,844 (2010 census) 616.6 people per square mile per capita income $19,558.  There are over 5 major hospitals (2 V.A.’s), as well as a medical teaching college / institution.  These figures do not include the ‘outlaying’ areas which are ‘city’ in perception, though they are not city in fact.

From Wikipedia: ” center of medicine, biotechnology, and military. Georgia Health Sciences University, the state’s only public health sciences graduate university, employs over 7,000 people. Along with _______, the Medical District of _________ employs over 25,000 people and has an economic impact of over $1.8 billion.”

Now . . . out of all that . . . help for male survivors . . . NOT including DID (dissociative disorder) . . .

Google Search: “male abuse survivors groups”

There is ONE counselor who advertises:

Sexual Abuse Treatment
Group ….
The Sexual Abuse Group is for adult men who have sexual behavior concerns. An initial evaluation is provided prior to group. . . . we offer specialized evaluations and therapy for children and adolescents who are sexually reactive or have sexual behavior concerns.

Naturally, she doesn’t do Medicare.  Sessions average $105 per visit.  I am living on SSDI.  She’s had 12 years of experience; however, in her list of specialties I don’t see “dissociative disorder” though that may fall under “thinking disorders” on her web page.

And that’s it.

So, let try a search for “Male Abuse Survivors” for my area.

well . . . okay, it brought up some sites….

We have the general lists of ‘Support Groups”

Neighborhood Assistance Corp of America (nope…)
Georgia Youth Advocate Program (nope; not a ‘youth’ anymore, LOL’ing)
Childrens Hospital Dental Association  (while in the head, it ain’t the teeth. And there’s that age thing again …)
Community Crisis Outreach Ministry  (While a ‘community in crisis’, we don’t think this would be ‘it’)
Safe Homes of …. Inc  (We’ve actually asked about these.  They’re for women only.)
Salvation Army  (Okay, that or the “Y” – where you can pack your bag and spend the night on a cot . . . hoping someone doesn’t rape you, kill you, or steal your possessions.)
Domestic Violence Intervention Center  (Nope.)
J W C Helping Hands Inc  (nope)
Comfort House  (A women’s thing again)
Housing Authority of the City of …. (These guys NEED help, LOL’ing – don’t think they’d help.)

sigh . . . okay then, that didn’t pan out so well….

“male child abuse survivors (townname) georgia therapist” <- we’ll google that one instead.

…. sites, but nothing specific. (one did have a good thing on group therapies, though – all about running a group . . . good notes for shrinky-does)

Cut a word.  Lets try this:  “male abuse survivors (townname) georgia therapist” . . . and we get…

okay, “Domestic Abuse” therapists … about 10.  Most are counselors.  Scales range from 90$ up per session . . . figuring they usually want you at least once a week . . . about $400 a month . . . add in any drugs; there go the prescription costs.. lets still just call it $400 a month.

Can I afford to “try” that?  Not really thinking so.  That’s 30% of my monthly income . . . and then there’s the “if they will take me.”

Eight years ago the insurance company (a good one) could only find 3 in a 50 mile radius . . .

Lets look at that group thing again ….

Okay,  one in Atl . . . for abused men … oops.

I’m not an african-american male.  Darn.  Spray paint and a light bulb socket, anyone?  (LOL, just kiddin’.)  But jeez ….

Support for men . . . who have, um, lets count ’em: childhood trauma; sexual abuse/molestation issues; “emotional issues”; dissociative … borderline to say the least … a few spousal and marriage issues (nuthin’ unusual there; doesn’t every marriage have them?) … little to no money …


looks kinda thin to me

oh well…moving on….

another one of those ‘gonna have to do it our own selves’ kinda thing…just like usual, business as usual . . . and it gets kinda lonely playing the game.

when all you have is you myself and I.


About jeffssong

JW is an adult childhood abuse survivor with DID*. He grew up in a violent family devoid of love and affection. He is a military brat and veteran. He no longer struggles with that past. In 1976 JW began writing "The Boy". It took 34 years to complete. It is currently on Kindle ( ), or if you prefer hard copy, on Amazon ( JW resides somewhere in the deep South. He is disabled and living with family. Note: Please feel free to take what you need; all is free to all. With that in mind, keep it that way to others. Thank you. We have 3 Blogs - One for our younger days, 0-10 (The Little Shop of Horrors); one for our Teen Alter and his 'friends' (also alters) with a lot of poetry; and finally "my" own, the Song of Life (current events and things)
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