So, even knowing it was a little hopeless, I decided to search for either a therapist or a support group for ourselves; being the man that I am, I know the going can be quite difficult.
And here’s what I found via Google and the internet. Now bear in mind I live NEAR a city of 195,844 (2010 census) 616.6 people per square mile per capita income $19,558. There are over 5 major hospitals (2 V.A.’s), as well as a medical teaching college / institution. These figures do not include the ‘outlaying’ areas which are ‘city’ in perception, though they are not city in fact.
From Wikipedia: ” center of medicine, biotechnology, and military. Georgia Health Sciences University, the state’s only public health sciences graduate university, employs over 7,000 people. Along with _______, the Medical District of _________ employs over 25,000 people and has an economic impact of over $1.8 billion.”
Now . . . out of all that . . . help for male survivors . . . NOT including DID (dissociative disorder) . . .
Google Search: “male abuse survivors groups”
There is ONE counselor who advertises:
Sexual Abuse Treatment
The Sexual Abuse Group is for adult men who have sexual behavior concerns. An initial evaluation is provided prior to group. . . . we offer specialized evaluations and therapy for children and adolescents who are sexually reactive or have sexual behavior concerns.
Naturally, she doesn’t do Medicare. Sessions average $105 per visit. I am living on SSDI. She’s had 12 years of experience; however, in her list of specialties I don’t see “dissociative disorder” though that may fall under “thinking disorders” on her web page.
And that’s it.
So, let try a search for “Male Abuse Survivors” for my area.
well . . . okay, it brought up some sites….
We have the general lists of ‘Support Groups”
sigh . . . okay then, that didn’t pan out so well….
“male child abuse survivors (townname) georgia therapist” <- we’ll google that one instead.
…. sites, but nothing specific. (one did have a good thing on group therapies, though – all about running a group . . . good notes for shrinky-does)
Cut a word. Lets try this: “male abuse survivors (townname) georgia therapist” . . . and we get…
okay, “Domestic Abuse” therapists … about 10. Most are counselors. Scales range from 90$ up per session . . . figuring they usually want you at least once a week . . . about $400 a month . . . add in any drugs; there go the prescription costs.. lets still just call it $400 a month.
Can I afford to “try” that? Not really thinking so. That’s 30% of my monthly income . . . and then there’s the “if they will take me.”
Eight years ago the insurance company (a good one) could only find 3 in a 50 mile radius . . .
Lets look at that group thing again ….
Okay, one in Atl . . . for abused men … oops.
I’m not an african-american male. Darn. Spray paint and a light bulb socket, anyone? (LOL, just kiddin’.) But jeez ….
Support for men . . . who have, um, lets count ’em: childhood trauma; sexual abuse/molestation issues; “emotional issues”; dissociative … borderline to say the least … a few spousal and marriage issues (nuthin’ unusual there; doesn’t every marriage have them?) … little to no money …
looks kinda thin to me
oh well…moving on….
another one of those ‘gonna have to do it our own selves’ kinda thing…just like usual, business as usual . . . and it gets kinda lonely playing the game.
when all you have is you myself and I.