Ever since I was a little kid, the concept of “unfair” has always angered me, especially when the unfairness is the direct result of other human beings.  Life is unfair enough to everybody in one way or another – why be adding to the burden?

The same goes for the rights of others.  And what I’m talking about goes far beyond that of civil law, the courts, and Constitution of America.  What I’m talking about are those far simpler rights; those basic rights, that one has towards the rest of mankind.

Those rights have in their inclusion the right to happiness – but not at the expense of someone else’s survival, or their happiness.  The right to survive – that’s a basic one, but there’s more.  For while it’s true human happiness has to come from one’s self – it’s also true that one’s happiness depends in part on the world around you.  You depend on the goodness of others – whether for a profit or from their own heart – and so you should include a responsibility to behave so – not just blindly expect respect when you may not have earned the right to get it, if you weren’t giving it in kind.

In our search for survival and our own happiness, we should not ignore the needs of others.  Doing a good turn doesn’t always yield a good turn, but it certainly helps one’s perceptions of the human condition.  Inversely, treating someone bad – treading upon their rights – with no right or with impunity – depraves the human condition, making someone else turn bad.

People also have the right to be treated as a human being – acknowledging that they may not be perfect – and neither are we.  So many folks I see try to pawn off their troubles on something or someone – when in fact, the trouble has been themselves.  Either unable to control ‘someone’, some urge within themselves – or just simply lacking the self-discipline to do so.  Always counting on someone else to pull their own head out of the noose.  “There should be a fine for stupidity, you know,” I recall someone once saying, “and it should be double the fine they get someone to pay if they ever win something in court.”  Sometimes I agree – but I’ve come to feel more sorry for the ‘stupid’ people: too ignorant to see their own behinds, which are often hanging out…

But the rights of others:  I will defend those rights – and so should you.  I was brought up to defend the rights of others – Army bred and Army born – and spent the younger years of my life being a Marine.  I have defended worker’s rights in companies, and looked out for the common man – sometimes at expense to my own self.  Bosses don’t like it when you tell them what to do – and especially what they can’t.  I know.  I’ve done it.  Told the boss; told a corporation: you can’t do that.  And I worked there.  They didn’t like it – but they obeyed the law.  It was the right thing to do – even if it did hurt my chances for promotion later on.

More people need to step up sometimes – pointing out and correcting wrongs.  And I mean true wrongs, real wrongs – not those wrongs we hear so widely publicized.  The little ones; the kinds of wrongs we see in everyday life to someone.  It’s all fine and great to belong to some kind of cause – “Save the Trees”, “Save the Whales”, “Save the Corporate Raiders” – but its in the little things you do that your behavior really matters.

I will defend the right for someone to believe what they want to believe, as long as they treat everyone with the same tolerance that I grant them, including me.  If you want to worship God – great.  If you want to worship goats or something – fine.  Makes no difference to me.  But don’t impinge on my own happiness – or someone elses – by either torturing or persecuting them for what they believe.  I’m not going to be a very happy man – nor Marine – if I catch you doing that.

By that same token: support others in their own beliefs.  If they’ve got a belief that works for them – if they seem to be and are saying they’re happy with it – then why “fix” it by trying to convince them of something else to believe?  Let them go with it.  You’ve got yours, they’ve got theirs, and that’s the end of it.  Let the gods come fight it out if they’ve got a problem with it.  After all: we’re just “men”.  We’ve got problems enough of our own.

Be polite at all counts, but don’t be a snob, and don’t let them run you over.  “Take no crap, give no crap” – that’s what we used to believe – and we still do so.  I’ll be fair to my fellow man – as long as he’s fair to me.  Mistreat me – and I’ll forgive you, but we won’t be doing business again.  And if you threaten me or another’s life – expect me to defend.  That’s what I do.  That’s what I’ve always done.  Stepping in for the defenseless . . . helping when I can.  And realizing that people have the right to screw up, too.  You can only help someone so far – then they must help themselves, lift themselves up by their own bootstraps like we did – out of the gutter (or in our case, poverty, drugs, and a childhood that one psychiatrist said was “sick”).   You can lead a horse to water . . . you can point the way . . .

but that doesn’t mean you should expect anyone to take it . . .

For freedom – and the learning that goes with it – while doing “no harm” – is a heavy chore.  Don’t take the responsibility lightly – and remember:

When you are protecting someone else’s freedoms – you are often protecting your own.

Just a thought there.


About jeffssong

JW is an adult childhood abuse survivor with DID*. He grew up in a violent family devoid of love and affection. He is a military brat and veteran. He no longer struggles with that past. In 1976 JW began writing "The Boy". It took 34 years to complete. It is currently on Kindle (http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004T3IVKK ), or if you prefer hard copy, on Amazon ( http://www.amazon.com/Boy-J-W/dp/1461022681). JW resides somewhere in the deep South. He is disabled and living with family. Note: Please feel free to take what you need; all is free to all. With that in mind, keep it that way to others. Thank you. We have 3 Blogs - One for our younger days, 0-10 (The Little Shop of Horrors); one for our Teen Alter and his 'friends' (also alters) with a lot of poetry; and finally "my" own, the Song of Life (current events and things)
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2 Responses to Rights

  1. Michael says:

    By all means “Save the Trees”, “Save the Whales” That way you know who to blame. Take a jet and go to a conference.

    I have solved a few injustices. There is a county court who no longer has the same clerk and three lawyers that no longer practice. Others had taken their place.

    This is not a there is nothing you can do or you should just give in speech. This is a the world is going to be fucked up when you die accept it.

    I seem to be moving towards an act of kindness is what I rather do now.

    Lets talk cooperate greed. Public employees are greedy they are just not as good at it. Public employees have what is called deferred payment of salary., They do not need to look for a loop hole. They avoid taxes this way and they even have a slick inflation clause. It goes well beyond they don’t do anything call it work and make it hard for anyone to do anything.


  2. jeffssong says:

    🙂 We leave those big projects (e.g. Geenpeace, Red Cross, End Global (fill in your cause)) to those who wish to pursue those kinds of projects – and have the ambition, drive, means, and physical ability to do so without suffering “self-harm” (in finances or whatever – and NO, I’m not talking “Profit” – I mean basic ability to take care of one’s self) – and without doing harm. Love the thing about the jet – so true. Lets print up ten zillion fliers and post them up saying “Save Trees”, eh? (sly grin, LOL!).

    No, what we mean is exactly what you said: those local injustices – and even then, as you say: it’s a losing battle. And we go out of our way to extend random acts of kindness: handing our change to some kid by the bubblegum machines; helping some handicapped put groceries in their car – backing off and letting others go first in line. We are always last in line (until we discovered that at some events, getting UP and going to the buffet was the way to get EVERYONE going instead of sitting around waiting for someone else to go – the old “1st cow out moves the herd” type of mentality) – however, somehow we end up at the ‘back of the line’ before it’s over – we just wanted to get the herd moving. LOL.

    But that’s the thing: we’ve found and studies have shown – sometimes if just ONE will speak out – it will get the others moving. Now in most cases of human behavior – I don’t care. But when something or someone presents a hazard or potential harm to something ‘serious’ (eg. kids on sidewalks, protected species) – then we move in. Then we must stand up and do something. Or else they are going to continue on doing it. Same thing with corporate greed. In taking care of their capital, corporations have forgotten to take care of the consumers who create that capital. And in doing so – by expressing their greed – and by law and legislation – they have gotten their way (despite sometimes illegal ways of doing it). Apparently that is what the “Wall Street Camp-in / Sit-in / Protest” is all about (to a degree). Unfortunately, that is a ‘movement’ that is doomed not to succeed due to no clear cut focus nor plan to do anything other than mill around chanting. I’ve seen the KKK do that one; same with some cult things. March around and chant – then go home. Not very productive and won’t do no good. Wasting their time. Washington is the one to march on. D.C., not the state, LOL!!! (I think the entire American population could disappear into them woods!)

    However, doing what we can to control what we can in our own local sphere of influence – that’s what I mean. You can’t make Congress sign a law; you can’t make the judge’s decision for him – but you can do what you can, perhaps with a certain degree of self-sacrifice (depends on how you feels) – knowing that you’ve done some good. Not so much for others as your own self – simply by doing some good . . .
    and taking a Stand sometimes. 🙂


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